I love this time of the year. It is a great time for reflection. To see what is working and what is not working in our lives. Whatever is working well, we tend to keep. But what is not working needs to go. It is time for a reset.
Why a reset instead of a new years resolution? A resolution is a firm decision to do or not to do something. Resolutions are reactions to behaviors or circumstances. New Year Resolutions promote perfectionism. A perfect way of being or living. You want to lose weight to reach the perfect or ideal standard set by fashion magazines. You want to make a certain amount of money so you can live the perfect life with the picket fence, fancy car and newest gadgets.
New Years resolutions set you up for failure. Studies show that people are backsliding on resolutions by February. By the end of the year they are back to where they started or worse.
Resetting your life means to bring back to the original setting. It is to get back to your core values of who you are and what you believe about yourself, your life and the world. A reset clears your mind of unwanted or toxic thoughts and behaviors. Resetting allows you to be proactive in your life instead of reactive.
Why do we need a Reset?
Life has a tendency to get chaotic and out of balance. When you go through a major loss, nothing seems to make sense. Your hopes and dreams no longer exist. The life you were living is gone. Everything has changed. You are not sure what to do now. You are not sure who you are anymore. All meaning has vanished. Everything is fuzzy and confusing. The things you use to handle with ease has become difficult. You are existing out of reaction and automation. Some things are being neglected. Not intentionally. You thought you paid the utility bills, watered the plants, feed the pets and took a shower.
After awhile, you find yourself needing a change. You are starting to move out the fog. You are slowly finding your way after loss. You are moving forward and ready to discover what is next for your life. Giving yourself a reset will help you create what is next in your life.
The last few weeks have been focused on reconnecting with yourself, others and your beliefs. In the next five weeks, I will show you how to reset your life by following these methods:
- Taking time for quiet reflection.
- Examining your life.
- Rediscover your core values and beliefs.
- Resetting your life.
- Living your original life, the life you were created to live.
Prepare for the work ahead of you by getting enough sleep, eat balanced meals, limit alcohol and incorporate some exercise into your daily routine. You will also want to limit distractions. Turn off the electronics and let your friends and family know that you will be taking some much need time for yourself.
Finally, create a comfortable environment with all the supplies you will need as you embark on this journey. Bring out photo albums, scrapbooks, journals or dairies and mementos. You will want to have a journal or notebook to write down your reflections, answer questions about your life and list your core values and beliefs. Or maybe you prefer your laptop. That is fine but make sure you turn off all notifications on you computer to unsure the quality time you need.
Your reset will remind you that you are you with the same gifts and talents. You are still the person you were created to be.
You are not alone, I am here to walk along side of you.
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